Every year, I like to share the top 5 things my Mommy taught me. Of course the list is far longer, but these are some of the main things I keep with me all the time. Some, she taught me and I got right away, some took time, others...still working on.
What has your mom taught you that has changed or directed your life in a certain way? Share yours with us, and check these out!
1. Be nice.
This is a simple lesson, but it goes a long way. Being nice to people not only gives them a good feeling about you, but also puts out good Karma to come back to you. My mommy still reminds me today the importance of being nice, especially when it is easy not to. I see traces of her whenever I feel the need to bake for friends and coworkers, have guests over, style for people, advise on legal matters, or whatever comes to mind to allow me to lend a hand to someone else. I carry this with me all the time.
2. Beauty is simple.
Mommy has made it clear to me, loads of make-up does not make you pretty, and there's a way to look your best without a mess! Going back to being nice on the inside, it is easy to look nice on the outside, too. Too much of anything is usually just that--too much and it will catch the wrong eyes most times. As I put together my looks for each day, I definitely think..."what would Mommy say?"
As Tatyana Ali put it: "My mother is my beauty role model. She's gorgeous, giving, and gracious - a true G!"
3. Be strong.
I haven't come across a strength like the strength my mother has, and am not sure I will. Her lessons in being strong go far beyond helping my dad out in the yard against my will. They extend to knowing things won't always go my way, and when they don't, I cannot give up. I will encounter some challenges, and as cliche as it sounds I hear her telling me "this, too shall pass". I may not want to hear it, but I always want to believe it...and in due time, I see it to be true. I know my mother got her strength from my grandmother, and great-grandmother, so I work hard to be sure I can pass it on someday as well. Because of my Mommy, I feel there is nothing I cannot do.
Ugh! I am still working on this one, and actually, so is Mommy. She's been trying to teach me patience all my life, and I think I just may be starting to get it--a little. I remember as a little girl hearing her tell me "beee..." and waiting for me to say "patient". I'm not sure I always understood the value of patience as a youngster, but I have gotten a much better understanding in my adult life. I can't count the number of times I hear her in my head reminding me...and sometimes it is her actual voice. I have found patience to be so critical, especially as I get older, and can say I have received and encountered some wonderful things from being patient. I keep this lesson with me. But, she and I both know, I'm not done learning it.
5. Always do your best.
I often look at my mom and think she has so many things on her plate...and wonder how she balances them all. Then I realize I am, in my own way, doing the same thing. I have learned over the years, she not only has a lot on her plate, but only enough for her to handle, and handle well. It appears to be a lot to the onlooker, and I know it is to her as well. But, the way she handles family, work, and social activities is always with ease and grace. Mommy has taught me about not taking on too much, but being there to step up and step in if necessary. Sure, you may have a lot going on, but giving each your very best is all that's acceptable. I keep this lesson close.
I could go on and on about the lessons my mother has taught me, but the space here is limited. I am endlessly thankful for such a loving and giving mother, and wouldn't trade her for the world. Thank you, Mommy for everything.
Happy Mother's Day to all the amazing Mommys out there.